Confidence is one of those tricky things where it seems like you either got it, or you don’t.
Everyone and their dog wants to know how to gain confidence, and if I’m being honest, I think the only way to do that is to fake it ‘till ya make it.
Confidence will literally change your life. It will take you from where you are and rocket you into the outer space of possibilities.
For example, with confidence you might:
Actually talk to that cute guy and meet the love of your life.
Write that book and make it to the Best Sellers list.
Make that phone call and skyrocket your career.
Start your passion project and transform your life.
Or even just wear the clothes you’ve always wanted to and start to love your body.
No matter how you look at it, having confidence (or more confidence) will make a positive impact on your life in some way or another.
My own personal confidence has grown tremendously over the past two years and I can attribute it’s growth back to just one simple life change.
How to Grow Your Confidence
This technique is so simple you’ll think I’m trying to pull a fast one on ya. But don’t underestimate the power of your mind. Everything you do (including “doing confidence” or “doing fearful/shy/doubtful”) stem from your mindset.
The chain of events start at your mindset and end at your actions. This is why it’s so important to change your mindset first. Everything will flow easily if you believe something helpful instead of believing something counterproductive.
Ready for the key?
Become the Version of You that Would
You wouldn’t be reading this right now if a part of you didn’t want to do all those wild and crazy things on your goals list. You wouldn’t be here right now if there wasn’t a part of you that thinks you can.
So what I need you to do is to tap into that version of you that would.
The version of you that would call that cute guy.
The version of you that would say f*ck it and start the business.
The version of you that would choose the salad over the pizza.
You know that version of you is in there somewhere, if she weren’t, you wouldn’t feel the pull to do it.
Imagine how that version of you would be. How would she act? How would she dress? How would she hold herself? Get a crystal clear image in your mind of what that version of you is like.
Now, bit by bit, become her.
Start dressing the way she would dress. Start saying things she would say. Start hanging around the people she would hang around and avoid the ones she wouldn’t.
And remember, you don’t have to start with the scary stuff, start with the easy stuff. If that confident version of you would quit her demeaning, low paying job and start her own business, and she would also wear pumps over flip flops, you can start with the heels! Work your way into this new version of you.
My best advice for this is to get a super clear image in your mind of how she looks, the kinds of things she does, and how she acts in situations that make you nervous.
Each day see her in your mind and each day become one step closer to being that version of you.
I’m not promising any overnight miracles, but I will promise that if you begin to become the confident version of you, in more ways than the ways that scare you, you will grow your confidence with a super strong foundation.
Confidence is a muscle. If you want to grow it strong, you have to use it every day.